Help Yourselfie Reflections

(Reduce perfectionism, increase Self-Compassion)

Understanding Why Being Kinder to Myself Can Make a Difference

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Noticing How Perfectionism Interacts With Your Self-Compassion

Page3-Tab2 Let Go of Comparing Yourself

When my friends demand perfection of themselves I feel like I should be perfect too. What is one way to let that immediate reaction go?

I often compare myself to others and I want to let go of the drive to be perfect. What is a short phrase I could say to myself in response to the voice inside that often negatively compares myself to others?

What feelings came up after I wrote that?

If I wanted to stop comparing myself to others, which of the following ways of thinking could I integrate into my life?

It’s okay to not look or appear like my friends

Journaling about a moment where I felt self-conscious and learning to not let it affect my self-esteem.

Writing a positive affirmation on a post-it note and placing it somewhere I will see daily.

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How Can I Take Ownership of My Self-Worth?

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Right now my self-worth is really connected to what people say about me. What types of things can I consider saying to myself to lessen that connection between what is said and how I value myself?

Sometimes my inner voice and other people say things about me that make me feel worthless. What can I say to myself as a way to ignore the immediate reaction to agree with them and instead find ways to improve my self-worth?

What feelings come up when I think about saying those things to myself?

Taking ownership of my self-worth is a pathway to help myself feel strong. What’s something I say or do that gets in the way of me owning my self-worth?

When someone says something negative about me, even if it’s family or friends, tell myself: “My value is not based on what someone says about me .”

Practice selfcare before I leave for the day by taking a few deep breaths and reminding myself that I am strong and worthwhile.

Connect with those who value my worth.

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How To Reach Out For Support When I’m Feeling Down

Page3-Tab4 Reaching Out

It’s important to remember that everyone has bad days, even when it seems like their life is great online. What are different ways I could ask for support when I’m having a hard day?

What’s something that would stop me from reaching out?

What feelings come up when I think about saying those things to myself?

Taking ownership of my self-worth is a pathway to helping myself feel strong. What’s something I say or do that gets in the way of my self-worth?

I could text a friend to hang out.

I could join a group or activity of people with similar interests.

I could reach out to someone who will be available and open to listening so I can share my feelings honestly.

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Learning How Perfectionism Shows Up Differently

Page3-Tab5 Being Imperfect is Being Human

How often have I noticed that members of the LGBTQI+ community are pressured to present themselves in a stereotypical manner in order to legitimize their sexuality? (i.e. lesbians must present masculine, gay men must be stylish)

How might the societal pressures that we all feel to be perfect be more pronounced for people in the BIPOC community who have a history of experiencing racism and discrimination because of their physical appearance?

What compassionate statement can I make that shows I accept reality: that all boys and men have human, imperfect bodies, despite the contradictory message that they can be simultaneously lean, strong, and muscular?

What are three reasons why financial pressure may influence my eating habits, making my food choices good enough?

When you follow social media influencers who are neurodiverse or who have a disability, what have you learned about their experiences of social comparison and perfectionism?